We’re living in a world where it’s easier to quit on relationships instead of practicing new and exciting ways to strengthen them. Why is that? Maybe the solution is putting our phones down for an hour to actually discuss what’s going on. Maybe it’s taking the time on a busy day to simply stop, look your man in the eyes and say – I Love You babe. Maybe it’s both. In a fast-paced technology driven world I too forget to sometimes stop and smell the roses. Before I got married, Stevie and I decided to participate in a pre-marital program to teach us about life and love before we said the magic words of ‘I do’ (the one we did). I’m so glad we decided to do that. The biggest thing I took from that program was understanding that no matter how busy life gets, it’s so crucial to make time for each other.
Every month Stevie and I go out to a nice dinner and talk about our marriage. We compile a list of questions that we both have mutually agreed on to openly rate and discuss. Whether you’re married or not, I totally recommend trying this exercise to strengthen your relationship. You can rate and write your answers on a piece of paper (or a napkin!) by using the 1-10 scale. For example, how would you rate the quality time we’ve had together this past month? You can even be more specific by asking each other, how would you rate me in bed? The whole purpose of this exercise is to be honest. It isn’t to argue and put each other down. The goal to keep in mind is: How can I be better going into this next month? It’s these life moments continue to tremendously strengthen our marriage. Try it!
Here’s another fun exercise. Surprise emailing your partner a relationships Q&A that he has to answer in 2 sentences or less! Here’s the latest one I did with my Hubby!!
Q: What song makes you think of me right now? Why?
A: Room in here by Anderson Paak. This is a song we’ve been jamming lately together. I noticed you liked it so now I think of you when I hear it.
Q: What is my best feature in your opinion? 😉
A: Your eyes truly captivate me.
Q: Favorite food I’ve recently cooked?
A: FAMOUS Turkey Chilli. I always need seconds and thirds!
Q: What is one thing I can do for you that would bring a big smile to your face?
A:Hmmm, definitely always a sucker for a back scratch. You’re undivided attention is my all time fave though 😉
Q: What annoys you the most about me? (Come on! I can take it!!!)
A: You loud boo. Always yelling across the house.
Q: When do you feel most loved by me?
A: Thats a secret…
Q: What are 3 countries you would like to visit.
A: Iceland, Kurdistan, Japan
Q: What would you say is my favorite thing about you?
A: My sense of humor.
Q: What is one thing I don’t know about you?
A: I can’t think of anything!
Q: What is your favorite memory of us together since I’ve known you?
A: Wedding day… EASY. Well.. and honeymoon.
Q: Where do you see us in 5 years?
A: 2 kids.. Living in a cozy house in Socal :D. Who knows!?
Q: How have you seen me change since we’ve been married?
A: You’ve become a woman 😉
Q: What is your most difficult challenge right now?
A: Continuing to find passion in everyday situations. Living life with determination to accomplish certain things.
Q: Name 5 things on your life list.
A: Have a few kids with you, Maintain a healthy marriage, Love God and Family, Be a good friend, Love people.
Q: What has been the greatest weakness of our marriage?
A: Patience. Learning that we both must be slow to anger with one another. We live in a fast paced world, but in the home we must be slow to anger. LOVE U BOO.
Q: What has been the greatest strength of our marriage?
A: Love. I love you and you love me unconditionally. I never question that. Til’ death lil mama <3
He’s the best. 🙂 A great Q&A sheet to print out and take to your next date-night if you’d like. Enjoy!
Photo credit: Jon Volk