5 Things I’ve Learned About My Marriage


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It’s Wifey Wednesday! Is anyone else counting down the days until Thanksgiving and Christmas? *raises both hands* This will be mine and Stevie’s first holiday season together as a married couple so we’re extra excited! Today’s Wifey Wednesday post is going to share some things I’ve learned about marriage so far. Girrrrrrrl let me tell you. After Stevie and I celebrated our 6 months last Sunday, I couldn’t help but think back on the journey – the good times and the bad.  They say the first 6 months of marriage is the roughest. Whoever “they” is, I can see that as being true. For me, it was getting through the transitioning period from moving into a new home, living with someone other than myself (we didn’t live together until marriage) and learning how to be a good wife. I realized I’m traditional in the sense that I like to clean my own house and cook for my husband. I can’t imagine myself ever wanting to hire a cleaning crew or a chef. I also realized how much I’m like my mom! I love lighting candles and doing wifey things like hanging wedding pictures around the house.  I’m also learning so many new things about myself, my husband and our relationship everyday. I’m inspired to share so keep reading!
There’s probably a list of 100 things I could type right now about what I’ve learned over the past 6 months but these are my top.
1. I like a clean house at all times. Since our home is also our working environment, I like keeping things in order. I’m not OCD or Danny Tanner when I see dust, but  I’ve become a huge fan of organizing and getting rid of things we don’t need. We’re looking to buy a house in the near future so right now I want to keep our apartment as cozy and clean as possible.
2. Learning patience through the little things. Before I got married to Stevie, his parents warned me that he had a tendency of losing things. At first I thought it was cute, but now I know why! He can’t remember where he puts his things sometimes because he throws it in bins and in piles on the floor. It’s my natural instinct to just pick up after him because I love him, but at the same time I’ve learned about being more patient. To keep calm and encourage him to improve in that area. He’s done the exact same for me. I’m a crazy driver, I hate seeing bugs, I get moody on my period, and angry when I’m overwhelmed – but he’s never quick to yell or get angry with me. He’s amazing in that way.
3. Love is a decision, not a fairytale. Growing up on Disney fairytale movies will eventually teach you that life/love isn’t a fairytale. In the first 6 months of marriage I’ve learned that everyday you have to be present in your marriage. Some days will be better than others, and not every moment will feel like butterflies and cotton candy. When I say love is a “decision”, I’m not saying that you’re forcing yourself to love someone. I plan on being married to Stevie for the rest of my life and that’s a decision we’ve both made. It’s so critical to listen to your significant other and never avoid confrontation. That’s never going to be healthy for your relationship. I used to give Stevie the silent treatment when he pissed me off in college but quickly learned that’s not the best way to go. Stevie and I are blessed to both come from families whose parents have been married for over 20 years so they’ve also set some really great examples for us to follow, but at the same time we’re learning how to create our own template. Our faith is at the center of our marriage and we’ve learned so many things from God’s word about love and marriage. The bible has been our number 1 source for married life 101!
4. My Husband Loves Going to Breakfast. Stevie mentioned to me a few weeks ago that one of his favorite things to do is breakfast in them mornings with me. Truthfully, I’m not a breakfast kind of person but when he communicated that this activity was something he loved I started taking note. We’ve made it a routine on the weekends to wake up and go have breakfast somewhere. I always let him choose and that makes him happy. It’s the small things that make my husband proud. 😉
5. Cleaning and Cooking Duties. In my household growing up my mom always did all the cooking and cleaning. She genuinely enjoyed it! Me on the other hand – I wish I had that kind of time! My husband and I have a pretty good system in place. If I cook the meal, he will clean up afterwards (or vice versa). When we have kids one day we want them to see mommy and daddy both being active in the kitchen! This system works really well.
Hope you enjoyed this post! If you’re in a relationship what are some things you’ve learned? Comment and share!
Thx for stopping by. Here are some more pictures of us (including a throwback)
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  1. Oh this post was so good and interesting! 🙂
    I wonder if you can tell us the name of the eyeshadows from MAC from your latest “best foundation” make-up video? Have seen many questions about it and I also want to know.
    And where can I find your outfit for Living Proof? The black turtleneck top and the skirt?
    Seriously, you’re the most beautiful girl <3<3<3

  2. I wasn’t patient at all and I always thought love just is a sense or feeling.i learned I should be more patient and care about what ny couple likes.but it’s too late because we lose eachother and broke up????????????????????when i think about past I realized I done some mistakes but I didn’t do all fualts.thank u they were really helpful but it’s in vain for me now????I hope u two doing well and wish you two all the best

  3. Wow, so many of these ring true for me! I’ve been married two and a half years and I’m still figuring out how to cope with my husband’s tendency to keep everything and keep in a disorganized way. I’m glad you’re figuring it out! Thanks for sharing!


  4. Hi Sazan ! (My english is not perfect, i’m sorry)
    I just started to follow you at the beginning of this year, I don’t remember how, maybe on instagram !
    I’m from Paris with kurdish origins of Turkey probably that’s why i continue to follow you 🙂

    Thank you for this post, it’s very nice and interesting to know this kind of experience (and also to improve my english ahah) I will think about it in my future married life 😉

    Kisses from Paris

  5. Congratulations on your 6 monthaversary! My 3 year anniversary is coming up ( Nov18). My husband and I have been knowing each other for 5 years, and what you said about making the decision to love is true!!! We have 2 under 2 (kids), so things can get pretty hectic. Sometimes we don’t have time for ourselves, or to even talk. But, every Sunday my husband let’s me sleep in a bit. When I wake up he’s already made me a chocolate milkshake with a piece of chocolate waiting on my nightstand. I’ve learned to let myself be loved, and to enjoy my life with my best friend. : )

  6. Sazan youre absolutely amazing, stevie and you are both stunning couple and i love reading about your vlogs/youtube videos specially when you involve your husband so that way so many people can see what a Godly inspired relationship with jesus in the center is about and that its actually amazing and not a fairytale or cliche. Please keep posting more vlogs like this, too many people are in toxic relationships that dont know how to be at peace at all. I LOVE YOU, JESUS LOVES YOU!

  7. Dear Sazan, I started watching your youtube channel two months ago and I have to say I just love your personality! And you hair tips of course ????
    But what thrills me the most is the fact that you mention God when you talk about your personal life! I think that’s a wonderful thing and personally, it gives me hope.
    I wish you all the best with your marriage and family! Keep on the good work ????❤️

  8. Girrrrrl! I read this entire post wondering if I had written it myself! My hubs & I are also celebrating 6 months of marriage this month, and honey, we might be doppelgangers (personality wise). It’s great to have a partner that understands your ways. Love this post! Xx

  9. I can’t even tell you how much I relate to the first two! Sounds just like my husband and me. Thanks for keeping it real 🙂

  10. I can relate to this post so much! I just got married on 9/27/15. Growing up in a traditional Christian household, living together before marriage was strongly discouraged. My biggest newlywed adjustment has been us moving in together now that we are married. I agree with your lesson #2 in just learning to be patient and kind to each other as we adjust to the new normal. I am loving the #wifeywednesday series. Keep it up and keep inspiring.

  11. Hi Saz,

    Congratulations on your 6 months.

    Love this post on post marriage reality.

    I need as much advice as possible as I’m getting married in 5 months eekksss!!! I am super nervous about living/life adjustments I will have to make as I have never lived full-time with my Fiancé plus getting married will mean I’m moving away from my family 🙁

    Look forward to your next post on marriage

  12. Hi !! 🙂 I am French, and I absolutely love your blog! I am particularly found of the shoes of your husband on the 1st picture, could you tell me what’s the brand of these shoes ?

    Thanks a lot,

  13. I love the relationship between you and your husband. It reminds me of my relationship with my boyfriend, so I was excited when I saw this post. I can definitely relate with you on your cleaning and cooking duties. Thankfully, my boyfriend doesn’t mind cooking when I get home late from work, and then I will help clean up afterwards. We help each other out, I sometimes call him Mr. Mom because he likes to do stuff the ladies normally do like cook and clean. haha.
    Love the throwback pic, you are are adorbs!xoxo

  14. Hi Sazan,

    I recently came across your blog and fell in love.
    I am left inspired not only because you have an amazing fashion sense but because of your love for Christ.

    May your marriage be a blessing unto others and may it be fruitful.
    God Bless!

  15. I thought it was so interesting that you stated marriage is a decision not a fairytale. I think so many ppl think marriage is easy and no work goes into it. I appreciate the honesty.

  16. Well said! I really agree with your Story. I am not married but I do live 8 years together with my boyfriend.
    Sazan from Holland ????

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  18. SALAM pretty laday????

    I have just followed you recently and i am so happy that i did???? BECAUSE you ARE different BLOGGEr which i really like your Genuine THOUGHTs anf very humble of you to share your PERSPECTIVE about your MARRIAGE ????
    stay blessed ya Jamilah????????????

  19. SALAM pretty laday????

    I have just followed you recently and i am so happy that i did???? BECAUSE you ARE different BLOGGEr which i really like your Genuine THOUGHTs and very humble of you to share your PERSPECTIVE about your MARRIAGE ????
    stay blessed ya Jamilah????????????

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